Being a disciple in the digital age

“the average person checks their phone every 12 minutes”- Rick Warren

The hours we spend on screens, unrelated to work, are hours during which we are not doing other things. And it represents a significant chunk in life in which we are not available to people who are physically present in our lives. This message from Pastor Rick really ministered to my heart and I hope we can create change for the younger generation.

THE SPIRITUAL HAZARDS OF DIGITAL TOOLS

(smart phones, iPads, laptops, internet devices, etc.)

  • I can waste precious time.

Life management is time management. Some things aren’t necessarily wrong, its just not necessary.

So be careful how you live. Don’t live like fools, but like those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity in these evil days. Ephesians 5:15-16

  • I can be seduced by the worlds values.

Social media amplifies the worlds voice and we carry it everywhere we go. We are to love the people of the world, dislike the values. Every time you pick up your phone, you’re seduced by the wrong value system. Our phones desensitize us to sin. It is a new source for old temptation.

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2

  • I can be drawn into unproductive arguments.

You know social media trolls who want to hook you in arguments? Be humble or you’ll stumble!

Do not get involved in foolish discussions about spiritual pedigrees[a] or in quarrels and fights about obedience to Jewish laws. These things are useless and a waste of time. Titus 3:9

And I tell you this, you must give an account on judgment day for every idle word you speak. Matthew 12:36

  • I can be tempted to compete and show off.

There’s a new form of sin called social media. We put ourselves in the best light possible, parading it online. I can’t be in a moment while trying to capture a moment!

Be careful not to practice your righteousness in front of others to be seen by them. If you do, you will have no reward from your Father in heaven. Matthew 6:1

  • I can get addicted to the approval of others.

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. Galatians 1:10

  • I can be distracted from what’s most important.

There are millions of things constantly coming at you on your devices. If you’re spending more time on your screen than you are with Jesus, then you are distracted. 5 minutes with Jesus and 3 hours on a screen? Who do you think you’re going to emulate?

But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.” But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details! 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her. Luke 10:40-42

So, whatever you do, do everything for the glory of God. 1 Corinthians 10:31

HOW CAN I USE MY SMART PHONE FOR GOD’S GLORY?

(Purpose Driven Technology)

  • Use it to express my worship

Listen to songs and scripture. Use your phone as a worship tool.

All day long I put my hope in you. Psalm 25:5

  • Use it to encourage fellowship

Show affection and generosity by reposting other accomplishments or posts. When you encourage other, God’s going to encourage you.

Love each other with genuine affection,[a] and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10

 So encourage each other and build each other up, just as you are already doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11

  • Use it to enhance my spiritual growth

Bible programs, sites, apps, bible studies. Go to a site that will help you grow as a godly woman/man. Be a good stewardship of your money by buying a Christian book. Drive time devotions. Pod casts.

Grow in spiritual strength and become better acquainted with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. 2 Peter 3:18

Keep me from looking at useless things. Let me live by your word. Psalm 119:37

  • Use it to expand my ministry.

Think of social media not as a place to show off/talking about self. Serve and encourage and help other people.

What can I give back to God for the blessing his port on me? Psalms 119:12

  • Use it to extend my witness.

Purpose driven technology! You can take the gospel around the world from your bedroom in your pjs. With phones everyone is a publisher of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Through Christ, God has made peace between us and himself, and he gave us the work of telling everyone about the peace we can have with Him… So we have been sent to speak for Christ! 2 Corinthians 5:18,20 

Publish God’s glorious deeds among every nations. Tell everyone about the amazing things he does. 2 chronicles 16:24

Do you own your phone or does it own you? Are you the servant or the master of your phone?

 

Click Here to watch this inspiring message from Saddleback Church and be encouraged as you learn what the Bible says about God’s purpose for your life.

the age of the screen

“It’s being talked with, not being talked at that teaches children language” – Dr. Hirsh-Pasek

Just a friendly heads up, I understand that this may be a sensitive topic and I have zero judgement regarding screen time as my sense of advocacy results from my own, personal over-use of screen time. It was a blind-spot for me…. a place where I lacked clarity of myself. I’m human, I’m a work in progress. I understand it may seem… strange, that I share screen time information on this platform, but where do people spend their time? My hope is to spread awareness of this epidemic and how it is affecting communication development. My hope is as adults we can change excessive screen time for the next generation….our babies.

The average daily media use for the youth in the US is seven hours and thirty-eight minutes (Westby, 2018). That was me. ME. I was spending a ridiculous amount of time on my phone. Hours wasted. And I don’t consider myself in the “youth” category. Unfortunately, I think this statistic also applies to adults. Don’t get me wrong… screens aren’t bad. There just needs to be some quality control.

Benefits of screens

  • entertainment
  • access to information
  • educational tools
  • economic efficiency
  • AAC/speech generating devices

SCREEN TIME AND COMMUNICATION DEVELOPMENT

Early intervention and preschool (ages 0-5)

What are young children doing on tablets? There is an app for everything! Puzzles, games, videos, music, flashcards, eBooks. Young children use them anywhere they have to wait. Doctor’s office, restaurants, baseball games, stores. They are missing out on social referencing, observing the environment, developing fine motor skills, exposure to pre-literacy, playing, interacting with caregivers.

Even background TV  (technoference) has been shown to delay language acquisition. Schmidt, M.E., et al. (2008) researched the effects of background television and young children. Their study showed less overall play, each play episode was shorter, and shorter bursts of focused attention. In addition, quantity of words and phrases, and number of new words spoken by the parents was lower than when the TV was off.

Children learn behavior from models. As parents we are trying to do our BEST at all the things. However, our screen time results in missed communication opportunities. It’s not just social media. It’s texting/email, news, looking up a recipe for dinner, paying a bill, ordering a pizza, checking the weather, scheduling an appointment, working from home. To a child ALL of these screen time activities look the same. Super convicting! The link between caregiver screen time and vocabulary is decreased opportunity to learn new vocabulary, decreased social communication, and language models, in addition to, fewer opportunities to ask questions.

School-aged children (ages 5-12)

This is such a tough one because the amount of screen media hasn’t changed much, but HOW kids use media has changed (Robb, 2017). Homework is being completed on a screen. School-aged children are using devices at home, in the classroom, and during social events. There are missed opportunities for learning when screen are present during social events: observing the environment, reading social cues, asking questions, listening to stories, sharing experiences, playing critical thinking games, and imaginative play.

Adolescents (ages 13-18)

Teens do everything adults do on devices! Activities of daily living, social media, online dating (scary), school/homework. Just like the other age groups, there are missed, critical opportunities: practicing interpersonal communication skills, asking questions/testing theories, sharing experiences, developing relationships, telling creative jokes, and gaining independence.

Over-exposure to screen time is impacting language skills such as verbal reasoning, non-literal language, use of humor, code switching, nonverbal communication, narrative language, written language, listening comprehension. Children who are over-exposed to screens demonstrate symptoms similar to ADHD, high functioning autism, social communication disorder, and specific language impairment.

Other screen time facts:

  1. Screen addiction is REAL. Dr. Peter Whybrow, director of neuroscience at UCLA, calls screens “electronic cocaine”. Screens are becoming a digital drug and addiction researchers are seeing potential for addiction. (Westby, 2018)
  2. Research is now showing that screens may rewire developing brains.
  3. Continuous partial attention (CPA) is paying simultaneous attention to a number of sources of incoming information, but at a superficial level (Rose, E. 2010). CPA is motivated by a desire to connect. We want to scan for the best opportunities. We pay continuous partial attention in an effort NOT TO MISS ANYTHING. It is an always on, anywhere, anytime, anyplace behavior that involves an artificial sense of constant crisis.
  4. Children with autism are more vulnerable to effects of screen time because screen time suppresses melatonin, disrupts sleep, causes emotional-dysregulation, and produces overstimulation.
  5. Joint attention or shared attention is the shared focus of two individuals on an object. Sharing a focus not only helps individuals communicate, but it helps develop important social skills such as bonding and seeing another’s point of view. A child with access to screen time on an iPad or tablet is missing out on this critical component of social development.

Most of this information comes from presentations that I attended in order to maintain my state license and certificate of clinical competence. Dr. Carol Westby and Leanna Heinrich, fellow speech language pathologists, shared valuable and insightful research that I would be happy to pass along.

REFERENCES

American Academy of Pediatrics. (2017). Handheld screen time linked with speech delays in young children. AAP New & Journals.

Cox Gurdon, Meghan. (2019). Enchanted Hour: The Miraculous Power of Reading Aloud in the Age of Distraction. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishing.

Doyle, Ann. (2014, October 2). When Social Media Turns Anti-social-and What We Can Do). [ASHA Leader Live]. Retrieved from https://blog.asha.org/2014/10/02/when-social-media-turns-antisocial-and-what-we-can-do/

Robb, Michael. (2017). Kids’ Screen Time Shifts Dramatically Toward Phones and Tablets. Common Sense Media. Retrieved from https://www.commonsensemedia.org/blog/kids-screen-time-shifts-dramatically-toward-phones-and-tablets

Schmidt, M.E., et al. (2008). The effects of background television on the toy play behavior of very young children, Child Development, 79 (4), 1137-115.

Wallace, Kelly. (2016, December 6). How much time do parents spend on screens? As much as their teens. CNN. Retrieved from https://www.cnn.com/2016/12/06/health/parents-screen-use-attitudes-tweens-
teens/index.html

Westby, Carole. (2018, November). Screen Time, Learning, and Communication in the 21st Century. Presented at the Annual ASHA Convention, Boston, MA.

Tristan’s first birthday

If you go down in the woods today you’re sure of a big surprise. If you go down in the woods today you’d better go in disguise; For ev’ry bear that ever there was will gather there for certain, because today’s the day the teddy bears have their picnic.

spring reads – kid edition

It’s no surprise that I have a slight obsession with children’s books. And I reeeeeeeeeally like seasonal books. Especially spring. I love the colors and illustrations. I love celebrating Easter with baskets of treats and teaching my boys about the promise of eternal hope.

Research shows that reading books from birth helps your child gain understanding of vocabulary (receptive language) and builds important connections in the brain. When a child understands vocabulary, he or she has the foundation to use these words (expressive language) in order to communicate their wants and needs. Studies also show that children who are frequently read to know more words by the age of two then children who have not been read to regularly.

I’ll try not to be so speech therapist mom nerd but it’s my hearts desire to teach parents how to interact with their children so they build their language and communication. These are some of our (my) faves:

Spring by Gerda Muller: Wordless picture books are great for narrative development. I’m going to get a little grad school….narrative skills improve academic and social success. You tell the story and have your child retell the story (fictitious narrative). Let the illustrations spark creativity and imagination as you create your story structure. Don’t forget internal state terms such as emotion!

Peek-Inside… by Usborne Books: The farm and the garden books are wonderful for this season. The Peek-Inside series is interactive with flaps and holes. Perfect for toddlers!

God Gave Us Easter by Lisa T. Bergren: “God loved us so much he wanted us to always be with him too. That’s why God knew he’d need to give us Easter”. The series is a little lengthy but Berger’s keeps the text simple for littles to understand the meaning of Easter.

Good News! It’s Easter! by Glenys Nellist: This is a new one for us. It’s going in Dane’s Easter basket. It’s a whimsical story about new beginnings and the gift of salvation. Each colorful character finds new life. As the book ends, Jesus is the example of new life as He rises from the tomb to overcome death. And repetitive, predictable, rhythm and rhyme!

Other spring favorites: Little Blue Truck’s Springtime, We Are The Gardeners, That’s Not My Chick, Planting A Rainbow, The Tiny Seed, What Makes It Rain, Bunny Roo I Love You, The Runaway Bunny, and so much more!

We (I) would love to know your faves too!

standard delicious apple twisting

Because you’re not supposed to pull (pick), you’re supposed to twist. Try telling that to your two year old.

The last THREE years we’ve been apple picking, we haven’t actually picked an apple. It was more like apple purchasing. We’re either too late in the season, too early, or they don’t allow u-pick during the week. NOT THIS TIME! We picked apples! Off a tree! Dane’s old enough now to really enjoy it and we walked away with $20 dollars worth of apples which is hundo p going to contribute to our pants not fitting. Adding to salads? Lets be honest. Not. Happening.

Also, don’t be fooled by that sweet smile down there. Dane climbed up those hay bales and starting booming that sign with his shoulder. He KNEW he wasn’t supposed to. He absolutely tests his limits but loathes being in trouble. That’s just age two. Zero self-control and big emotions.

That’s all for now.

it’s time…to use the potty

We unintentionally started learning how to use the potty and I am super happy to report…Dane did great! We started because Dane got his first diaper rash from waking up a few mornings with a lovely #2 diaper. I wasn’t going to start teaching Dane how to use the potty for multiple reasons: we are moving, Travis is MIA… possibly KIA (busy season for youth ministry), I have two kids (Did I mention that?), and Dane loathes diaper changes and legit would not let me touch the diaper. So…WAS he ready? Oooof, what a loaded question, right Heath? Yes and no. He showed more interest last summer at 16 months. Diaper changes were a battle and the thought of literally adding something else to my plate would push me over the edge.

Well, we went over the edge…

Since I am basically on my death bed, I DID NOT read any potty learning/training books. No time for that. We do enjoy this Everyone Poops book ;). Instead of gaining knowledge through books, I reached out to my village. Do you have that one friend you text to ask a million kid questions? Hi, Heather. My bast frand, Heather, also has a blog and she wrote about their potty training experience. You can read about it [here]. I read it when she posted but texted her when it was our time …like what do I do? He’s naked anyway to air out that rash so we went for it.

I’ll try and keep it short. Key word: try. First, I purchased an over the potty seat and a step stool. Bathroom ready…check. We did naked bum for 3 days, I loaded him up with liquids, and I guess we did a combo potty learning/training because I did use a reward system. That’s the ABA therapist in me. I love token boards! And change is hard for Dane so visuals help. Another great tip from Heather… no underwear for a while. It gives a false sense of a diaper. So he’s freeeeeeeee, free…. Now, some babes can learn with underwear but I put underwear on Dane the first day and he peed in it. So every child is different. The no underwear worked for us. Eventually you can put underwear on once they are desensitized from the diaper feeling. I kept my language positive and avoided the “do you have to go question”. It was simply, “It’s time to go pee-pee”! It worked! He peed. He got it. He immediately got a treat. The first day he peed 18 times. EIGHTEEN. So I had to quickly change my reinforcement schedule and back off on the mini cookies I decided to use. Eye roll. Poor choice. We faded to 5 stickers and then a treat. There were a few times in the learning process where he said, “I have to go pee-pee” but actually did not. So I verbally praised his attempt to sit and try. Next up… ditch the diapers at nap and overnight. He’s waking up dry. Sometimes. Praise but I’m not ready to tackle that yet. Alright, that was not short…here’s the bullet point version:

  • Get yo’ bathroom ready…potty chair and step stool.
  • Naked bum for 3 days at home. Try no undies.
  • Token/visual reinforcement chart. Reward every try/pee/poo and eventually fade to 5 stickers then a treat.
  • If you have a boy, stock up on these multi-purpose wipes. That thing is a hose and it goes everywhere!
  • Diapers for naps/overnight until they wake up dry.

 

Alright, mamas. Good luck. May the force be with you.

expect the best & plan for the worst

Do your best, prepare for the worst— then trust GOD to bring victory. Proverbs 21:31 (MSG)

Man, being a mom is hard. Being a mom of TWO littles… I can’t even explain it. We are still adjusting over here. This season is tough. This message I so needed to hear because if you ask Travis I may or may not be a little bit of a negative Nancy. And by a little bit I mean, a lot. I’m wired to plan for the worst. I’m a planner. Type A. I am planning not expecting. Planners always marry expectors. Hi, Travis. We gotta balance each other right! I hope this message speaks to your heart and helps you let go of control and expect the best. Ask for God for His good gifts in your life.

• Expecting the Best – the Bible calls that FAITH

Faith is the confidence that what we hope for will actually happen; it gives us assurance about things we cannot see. Hebrews 11:1 (NLT)

• Planning for the Worst – the Bible calls that WISDOM

We all have problems in our life. God wants to give us wisdom to handle and manage our problems.

Sensible people will see trouble coming and avoid it, but an unthinking person will walk right into it and regret it later. Proverbs 22:3 (TEV)

How do you do both at once?

1. STOP PRETENDING TO BE GOD.

“God knows that if you eat the fruit from that tree, you will learn about good and evil and you will be like God!” Genesis 3:5 (NCV)

“But those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.” Matthew 23:12 (NLT)

Humbly, turn to Jesus and ask for strength. Make that choice to depend on God and not yourself.

2. BASE YOUR PLANNING ON GOD’S WISDOM

God’s wisdom for margin:

• Invest your MONEY. save & give.

The wise man saves for the future, but the foolish man spends whatever he gets. Proverbs 21:20 (TLB) “Give, and you will receive . . . The way you give to others is the way God will give to you.” Luke 6:38 (NCV)

• Spend your TIME. This is the core of where I struggle with margin. I over-schedule. I am a list maker that hardly manages getting that “reasonable” list completed. Not happening. I need wisdom on how to spend my time. The danger of overloading our schedule is like overloading a plane… we crash.

Making the very most of the time [buying up each opportunity], because the days are evil. Ephesians 5:16 (AMP)

• Take care of your BODY

Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NLT)

• Be diligent in your WORK

Go to the ant, you sluggard; consider its ways and be wise! It has no commander, no overseer or ruler, yet it stores its provisions in summer and gathers its food at harvest. Proverbs 6:6-8 (NIV)

• Value your RELATIONSHIPS. We are made to relate to others. We need community.

Love is more important than anything else. It is what ties everything completely together. Colossians 3:14 (CEV)

3. TRUST THAT GOD IS IN CONTROL. of finances, health, relationships. Trusting that God is in control is counter-culture. When a problem arrises and we are afraid, we try to grab on to control. I find that I like to be in control as a parent. It comes from a good place of protection. But my control will fail us. Only God has the power to be completely in control. How do we trust him? We wait on him in patience. We stop to wait and see God. He wants us to stop, wait, and practice self-control.

Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NLT)

The LORD is good to everyone who trusts in him, so it is best for us to wait in patience – to wait for him to save us. Lamentations 3:25-26 (TEV)

4. BELIEVE THAT GOD IS ALWAYS WORKING FOR YOUR BEST. 

Since he did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for the sake of all of us, then can we not expect that with him he will freely give us all his gifts? Romans 8:32 (NJB)

“If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matthew 7:11 (NIV)

Ask God to work for YOUR best. Watch [this] inspiring message from Saddleback Church and be encouraged as you learn what the Bible says about God’s purpose for your life.

pumpin’ mama

I am a pumpin’ mama. I have to pump those first few days to relieve engorgement. I know… supply and demand…but I HAVE to, its painful and I basically drown my poor babies because I am so full. And I figure one day, I won’t be making as much milk so might as well stock up now 😉 It’s also nice to have some milk stored away for date nights.

This post is in partnership with Aeroflow Breastpumps and Medela, brands I love and trust. All opinions are my own.

Now that engorgement has subsided, I typically pump in the morning after Tristan’s first feeding in order to build up a stash before I go back to work in August. Yup, I work part-time, so I knew I was going to need a pump again. My first pump was a Medela so I knew I wanted another one. I am currently using the Sonata by Medela. It’s SUPER light weight which is awesome since I will be on-the-go once school starts in the fall. And it’s quiet…like quiet as a mouse quiet. Another HUGE plus is the parts can be washed in the dish washer. AMAZING! Alright, another cool feature… Bluetooth. Say whaaat! You can connect your pump to the MyMedela app. Fancy! The app is legit. It’s free and designed to help mamas meet their breast milk feeding goals by tracking nursing/pumping sessions, as well as baby’s growth. There are helpful videos and informative articles and even 24/7 access to a board certified lactation consultant!

I highly, HIGHLY recommend the Sonata! You can qualify for a breast pump through insurance by completing Aeroflow’s qualification form [here]. You will be contacted via phone or email by a Breastpump Specialist who handles everything from contacting your doctor to verifying benefits with your insurance provider. It’s a pretty simple process!

Post in partnership with Aeroflow Breastpumps. All opinions are my own. These products are truly things we love and would purchase.

postpartum necessities

All. On. Amazon. Praise!

Amazon: a mom’s best friend. Thank you, Mr. Amazon for being there for the mama’s (me) who don’t have time (or energy) to go to the store. Sorry, to all the husbands (Travis) who don’t like Mr. Amazon because their wife can make purchases with a thumbprint. It’s almost as bad as an unnecessary Target trip.

I truly enjoy reading blogs. My friend, Brittany, shared an amazingly detailed hospital/what to have ready at home post, where she mentioned having a caddy for all things postpartum. GENIUS!!! We live in a two story condo and carting all my stuff around was super annoying. Like two trips up and down the stairs. Nope, not happening this time. So, I got myself a caddy to stay organized and keep everything in one place. Baby in one arm, caddy crap in the other.

  • basket caddy. I just like baskets. Three, tiny compartments in the front. One big one in the back. It’s perfection.
  • belly bandit bff wrap. I had this with Dane and while it’s good for a plethora of things (e.g. expedite fluids through the body, may help muscle memory and body shaping, comfort after c-section, etc.), I noticed it most with back pain! My back was so sore… this was amazing!
  • oat mama lactation tea: I was so excited to find this on amazon! Super excited to try it out. It’s basically spring so I’m thinking iced chai lattes. Yum!
  • extra peri bottle. We have a bathroom upstairs and downstairs so I will need two.
  • colace. Do I have to go there?
  • brewers yeast. Make and treat yo’ self to some lactation cookies. My fave recipe is from Jessica at how sweet eats. They freeze well! Find it [here]. note: i used half the cinnamon.
  • always undies. Trying these out this time since I ran out of the mesh undies from the hospital.
  • always overnight pads without wings. 
  • tucks. My fave!
  • nasal aspirator. Ok, I know there’s this brand that everyone loves where you suck the snot…I can’t figure the thing out! It didn’t work for us. This is my fave and it’s super easy to use.
  • nursing tank. 
  • manual hand pump. I do like having a hand pump for night time. I don’t want to use my electric pump at 3:00 am. This one pumps directly into the bottle.
  • breast milk storage bags.
  • quick clean pump wipes.
  • perineal spray. This stuff is the bomb! I am not a fan of the dermaplast from the hospital so this my fave alternative.
  • nursing balm.
  • nursing pads: disposable and reusable.

And one last thing, not on amazon but worth mentioning… fenugreek bars from mrs.milk. I got salted caramel dark chocolate. Need I say more?! Currently salivating.

So. Much. Stuff. But it is all needed! Of course, first time around, I had other stuff that I didn’t use (nipple shield, milk catchers/saver). I have everything ready, now were just waiting on this little babe.

 

 

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the minimalists hospital bag

AKA what you actually need. 😉

First time around, I way over packed. Like checked every list on Pinterest and basically moved into the hospital with our behemoth rolling suitcase for two days. Terrible idea because we had to unpack ALL that junk when we got home. But first time parent is a tad bit frightening until you figure stuff out. But like, do you ever figure it out? I don’t think we have. I 100% felt comfortable with overpacking but this time around… Basic. Necessity’s.

Baby 2, I’m going minimal. And my birdling bag exudes minimal (I actually said that in my head but then I had to look it up to make sure it meant “displays”. And then Travis told me no one actually says that word. Well, I do.)

These are the items packed away in that gorgeous bag:

  • nursing bras: these Lamaze Intimates ones are my new fave. They are super soft! And the lace trim makes them cute and not frumpy.
  • Diapers & wipes: the hospital supplies these too so I’m still debating if I want to toss in what we are comfortable using. Let’s be honest, it’s not happening but these items will be ready at home.
  • nursing pads: I like both disposible and reusable.
  • nursing balm
  • pacifier
  • new mama bottom spray
  • toiletries: legit didn’t shower the last time and I probably wont this time because I like to be dirty/think of it as camping. JK. Sort of. But I would rather shower at my house than in a gross hospital shower. I’m just planning on skin care/face stuff, toothbrush/paste, and makeup.
  • socks/slippers
  • baby blanket
  • going home outfit for mama: this dwell + slumber caftan is perfect for nursing and loose. It will cover the weird postpartum belly.
  • going home outfit for baby: pajamas. Dane went home in a super cutesy outfit but baby 2 is going home in a footie. Easy. Done. Primary has great budget friendly basics!
  • car seat cover
  • snacks: Oat Mama lactation bars!
  • phone charger: Make sure it’s extended or portable! Those dang outlets are so far away.
  • wallet with ID and insurance

 

My friend Brittany, made the best check list! I think it is succinct, perfect for first time moms. And it’s cute! Like really cute! Download [ here ]!

This post contains affiliate links to products I use and, if purchased, a very small commission goes to help our family. These products are truly things we love, would purchase/DO purchase, and fit our style.